我把牌子递进去
说了good afternoon
但是他似乎没有听见
问了我how are you
我答 fine thanks. and you?
tt: fine!
Seems you will go to family and ...,what is it?
i: i will study child development in that department. It is quite related
with my major psychology at peking university.
tt: what will you study.
i: I will study the psychology development of children. I want to use what I
have learned to help children live happily and healthfully.
tt；Then why go to usa? You can learn it here in China.(这句话是打断了我，语气
很强硬，严肃的说的)
I: 大致说得是心理学在美国的发展很好，有很多leading researchers, 而国内人少。之
后说中国有4亿儿童，但是儿童心理健康专家不到100人。（之前特地查了一下，为了有说
服力）
我还没有说完，他就打断我，说
tt:We amaeria does have excellent education. I know you want to have study
there, but after you graduate, you become a developmental psychologist and
earn a lot of money, you will not come back to China.
I:No, I will go back to China because as a Chinese, I can not understand
the American children and their family very well but I can understand
Chinese ...
这里我也说的比较着急，想要说服他，说到一半，又被打断
tt:NO, no!You can understand them. There are many Chinese in America, they
will pay you a lot of money, you will not come back
I;There are more children in China, they need my help very much.I can do a
lot of things in China.
他这个关于美国有很多华人的问题我没有想到，导致我的文化策略没有成功，当时有一些
吃惊，但是也只能够那么回答了。
tt:What will you do in China?
I: I will find a position in university and write books about how to educate
children,how to meet with difficulties in the family.I hope I can use what I
have learned to help Chinese children live happily and healthfully, not only
physically but also mentally.
tt：没有继续在这个问题上难为我，开始问我父亲的工作收入，因为我需要自己出1600￥
后说中国有4亿儿童，但是儿童心理健康专家不到100人。（之前特地查了一下，为了有说
服力）
我还没有说完，他就打断我，说
tt:We amaeria does have excellent education. I know you want to have study
there, but after you graduate, you become a developmental psychologist and
earn a lot of money, you will not come back to China.
I:No, I will go back to China because as a Chinese, I can not understand
the American children and their family very well but I can understand
Chinese ...
这里我也说的比较着急，想要说服他，说到一半，又被打断
tt:NO, no!You can understand them. There are many Chinese in America, they
will pay you a lot of money, you will not come back
I;There are more children in China, they need my help very much.I can do a
lot of things in China.
他这个关于美国有很多华人的问题我没有想到，导致我的文化策略没有成功，当时有一些
吃惊，但是也只能够那么回答了。
tt:What will you do in China?
I: I will find a position in university and write books about how to educate
children,how to meet with difficulties in the family.I hope I can use what I
have learned to help Chinese children live happily and healthfully, not only
physically but also mentally.
tt：没有继续在这个问题上难为我，开始问我父亲的工作收入，因为我需要自己出1600￥
一年。
我强调父亲可以承担这笔费用，因为不多。unl的生活水平不高系里面给的钱也够花了。
tt:表示同意，说unl的生活水平的却不高。算是认可了
接着问为什么选择这个学校
我说导师很强，拿出导师的网页，隔窗户给他看导师的honor
tt 没有再说什么，开始在电脑上面打字，不理我，我就开始等。觉得似乎有戏。
然后（似乎过了挺久的），他抬起头，整理我的ds visa加在一起 放在一边
我觉得它应该给我visa了，忙说thank you
他似乎有一些生气，停下来，严厉的说
tt: I did not say yes. 然后又板着脸说了一堆话，似乎说如果你不回来我会很失望的
。中国有很多孩子需要你们。而美国有足够的心理学家，we do not need anyone else!
听他说的过程心里想了很多东西，我自己那么着急感谢他是因为什么呢？让他觉得太
强烈的动机去那里了么？我真的那么想去么？
待续