想发给他的信，终于还是忍住了

chessyUID: 14640

thanks for your understanding.
well, first of all, i would like to make clear that my view is Just a view. no more else.
general generates from Soldier;and he dosenot assure happiness and peace; and what i mean Kid-kid is childish; kid is shiftless in responsible; kid fears everything that puzzels or possiblely endangers him/her.
But our presumption is Men are born strong, tough, brave, responsilbe....etc..So when they cant bring all these merits into reality, we doubt the truthfulness of this concept-a concept widely accepted by all. so what's wrong here? or otherwise we say...this is where the strength and weakness of human nature present?

zrcclyUID: 100190

vivien,快刀斩乱麻!!!!!!!,这是一个朋友教我的,现在我把它送给你,希望一切早点过去!
会好起来的!

feifeixiaoleUID: 117252

其实我和你有相同的经历，曾经我也曾非常心痛，也有很多的不甘心，但是当你真正走出来的时候你才知道原来要放下也不是那么的困难，加油 把！！去找个更好的会真正疼自己的男孩！！！

bloodcherryUID: 9965

我和chessy有相同的经历，有时候觉得，信写了，如果不发，就总留有个遗憾在心里，总觉得这样也很难真正的放下。如果发出去了，对自己有个交代，心里会舒服很多。我也写了一封信给他，当我拿到签证的时候，我会将这封10页的信交给他。这个时候，这封信交出去，不是为他，而是为了我自己。写这封信的目的，并不是为了挽回什么，换得什么，而是为了一个解脱，告诉自己，从此这个人真的和自己清风明月两不相干，从此，自己真得解脱~~~~~~~从此心中没有任何遗憾。一笑而过，潇洒离去，他后悔也好，无动于衷也好，这是他的事情，与我无碍！起码对于我自己来说，我没有后悔

pityUID: 65952

原来这里的gter们都有着自己不为人知的情感经历。我想，在若干年后，或许它们会成为我们人生中珍贵的记忆。毕竟，我们曾经幸福过。难道我们能够企求永远么？要忘记一个人，的确是那么的不容易。但是，除了放手，我们还能做什么呢？我们无法强求一份感情，更不应该抛弃自己的自尊委屈自己。有缘，又有份，两个人才能最终走到一起。当份已经消失的时候，一切都成为了过去完成时。
不要因为一个人而怨恨一个群体。虽然我曾经受到伤害，我仍然坚信忠诚的爱情。只是，我要告诉你，作为女孩，一定要懂得珍惜自己。女孩也应该有着自己的梦想，自己的生活，作为一个独立个体，绝对不可以依附谁而生活。否则一旦这种依附无法承受负荷，你会跌落万丈深渊。
好好地珍惜自己身边的友情和亲情，好好地为着自己的目标努力奋斗。至少，在这里的人们都有着同样的飞跃之梦。并且，期待着真爱的到来。
这，是我一直在努力着的，也希望你能够坚强。相信时间会冲淡一切的。

azonaUID: 6919

其实有些事情不用考虑对方怎样，对得起自己就行了。

chessyUID: 14640

so be good sodiers.:}

withoutuUID: 88354

其实，我想这个男主人公也很累，

travelaloneUID: 114364

I'm not an active participant in the forums as I usually just like to read the stories and comments of others. But for this letter and the comments I would like to share my opinion with you. I think you should be resolved to part with him now because he isn't the best choice for you either, just as he thinks you are not the best option for him. Maybe you think you can't love another any more but in fact this isn't the truth. With time going on, you will gradually forget him as time is a great healer. I believe you will finally find someone who truly appreciates you and cherishes you. So let the past gone with the wind and go out to embrace the happiness of tomorrow you deserve today.

To chessy: Men are kids because they haven't grown up yet. You need to give them time and experiences to maturate. Before a soldier becomes a general, he needs to find many battles to learn from life experiences. So is the case for the growth from boys to men. But should you merely wait for him to grow? Why not grow with him together and you may make the perfect man you have been hoping for. Otherwise, it will be too long a waiting for both men and women.

seven613UID: 121030

最初由 celestewood 发表
[B]没事的，过了一关又一关，你就是金刚不坏之身了。
或许回过头来看，你会说：“哦，我认识吗？” [/B]

说的好好啊~~~

chessyUID: 14640

well, guys, i must declare here that my view is just a view-it's kind of my theory.
but people are often mixing up their true selves and the reality; while you can tell prejustice from face matters.

it's quite true that our characteristics are diversified and only by diversified communication can we live on and pass on our point of views. i suppose sense and sentiments are interactive in our daily speaking/listening/presenting. so that's why i come here to express myself to you all.

To travelalone: You propose a good way to mingle with Sodier-Kid Man. thanks.

flyinglife2002UID: 28027

really,i am not a litter girl that i can believe something about the relationship with man and woman is meaningful. But i definitely believe that time can mend everything including the feeding, such as regret and disappointment. So just smile a little and everything is ok in future.
Take care yourself and relax. maybe you home is not bad choice for you now

vivienUID: 119906

非常感谢大家的理解与安慰，经常上这个版，发现很多人原来也和我一样，在独自承受感情上的创伤，在巨痛中慢慢成长。也许并不是因为天下的伤心人太多，只是可能伤了心的人才更喜欢在这个版上宣泄自己的情感吧。记得我以前享受幸福时，是不怎么光顾这个版的，现在每天都上来看看，在别人的故事中品味着自己的痛楚。
是不是我们考虑得太多了，反而无法拥有平实的快乐呢？或者对这个世界看得越来越清楚，反而失去了雾里看花的美好遐想？我想我们都有弱点，男人也有脆弱的一面，只是他们往往能够驾驭自己的脆弱和悲伤，或者在他们心里，即使遗憾也是一种残缺的完满。
male GTER们，你们有时会有遗憾吗？而这种遗憾在你们心里留下的又是什么呢？