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本帖最后由 S酱 于 2010-10-2 00:32 编辑
1001 独立 感觉这话题没话写啊...憋出了点自己都不忍目睹的超级大白话
letting a friends make a mistake is better than saying or doing somthing that may destroy the friendship
According to the speaker, letting a friend make a mistake is better than saying or doing something that might threathen the friendship. However I don't think it might be a good way to maintain the friendship. In my opinion, we should prevent our friends from making mistakes, which would not merely harmful, but useful to the friendship.
Firstly, no one could deny the importance of honest in the friendship. Since honest is the base of friendship, without that character, people could not become true friends. So it is better to tell our friends the truth, even though that take some risks of destroying the friendship. But from my view of point, the real friendship which could last long could not be destroyed by simple cases, especially when one person tend to prevent another from making mistakes. Take me as an example. When I was a middle school student, I got along well with a girl named Jane. Jane was a warm-hearted girl who were always ready to help the others. But she always talk with the others in a quite straight way, and these always led to misunderstanding of the others which made other friends felt angry with her. As her best friends, from the begining, I felt aquite embarrassed to tell her the wrong manner that she spoke to others, because I did not want to make her lose face, which would do harm to our friendship. But finally, I made my mind to tell her my feelings and gave her my advices in a modest way. To my suprise, after listening to my words, Jane looked into my eyes sincerely, and I could even see tears in her eyes. She Thanked me for my kind words, and she really appreciated my consideration of her . From then on, she took much more concerns about her behavior, and our friendships become more and more stable.
Secondly, as a fact, letting a friend make mistakes could not be profitable to the friendship. It might defeat the origin purposes in the long term. If I did not tell the truth in the story above, I don' t think it is benefical to Jane in the long run. If no one went to point out her flaws straightly, she would never refine herself but probably made things even worse in the future. Since true friendship always serves the purpose of favoring each other, It would be better to tell the mistakes a friend made in favor of his or her own good.
After all, I would prefer to tell a friend his or her the truth when he or she make something wrong. The characters of honest and sincere are essential to good friendship so there is no need to be worried about that such a behavior would destroy the true friendship.
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