2009.8.7 NA 是否同意 parents help determined the future of their children or children allow to make their own choices.
Who is the host of children`s future? Is their parents? No, it is children themselves. Therefore, the role of parents are the adviser, the last determine should be made by children themselves.
Even though many people have realize the situation, when comes to their own child, they still insist on playing as an authority who determined the future of their children. The old saying goes, they argues, “listen to your elder” which indicate that elders could make correct choice for children due to their rich career experiences, stable social statues and value human relations. I do not mention to deny the importance of parents and their profound backgrounds when children consider their future, however, it should be clear understand that parents only works on giving guidance such as how to do things better rather than directly telling them what to do. Because determine without children`s will may cause serious problems and eventually destroyed his or her future.
The first problems has to do with children`s lack of interesting. When parents concerned children`s future, they always concentrate on the career`s future development and ignore children`s interesting. Here comes the problem. Lacking of interesting lead children do not devote themselves, and make no effort with it. In some case, as a result of unable to pursue their own dream, children may become impatience to current situations. To avoid such consequence, parents should entitled children to make choice about their future.
The second problem has to do with ignorance of children`s talents. Each children have unique gift, therefore, could not be generalize. Parents always ignore this fact and determine children`s future according to their experiences. Those ignorance of children`s talents may cover potential genius. Could you image what will happened if Kobe Bryant`s father let him join a football team ? I am not sure whether there will generate a great football star, but it definitely that there will lose a super basketball star.
In a sum, to benefit for children themselve, parents should give them right to make their own decision. Only in that way, children could devote to construct their future.