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6/19/2010 Do youagree with the following statement? If you need to discuss upsetting
or controversialproblems with others, using e-mail/text messaging is better than
using telephone/voice-messaging.


Talking aboutupsetting issues has the possibility of influencing one's friendship,
making usembarrassed or even involved in conflicts. So the way how to deal with them
and communicatewith another one is very crucial at this situation. As far as I am
concerned, Iprefer using text messaging rather than direct face to face or telephone
method, to discussthe problem with others.


First andforemost, directly talking with another individual regarding controversial
problems mightdamage the relationship or friendship. Once afriend of
mine, who was inthe same class with me in high school, borrowed 120 yuan from me
because he wantedto buy a new bike but he hadn't enough money. However, he didn't
returnmoney back to me a month later although we can see each other every school day.I
thought he shouldforget about the money although he rode the bicycle every day. Whatsurprised me most was that he seemeda little bit upset when told he was indebted to me. He
soon paid themoney back, but his face flushedand he seemed embarrassed when seeing me
after that.


Moreover, I oftenforget what I want to say through the voice method and it would be
better if writingmy opinion and then sending it to the one. I feel uncomfortable

when directlytalking controversial matters with others, and think the other may be
unpleasant becauseof me, which hindersexchange among us. I can keep quiet andwrite down with a full understanding of the thing when spending time alone.


Finally, I am a sensitiveman, easy to feelmentally tired and then in a bad mood even
many days afterthe controversial discussion especially when thinking of the
expression ofanother man. If conflicts happen, I would not want to eat, drink and
sleep well, whichdefinitely do harm to my work, study and physical health.
Meanwhile, I would feel much better or even can forgetabout the thing if just sending a
message throughMSN, QQ, or E-mail to the other one. It is because in this way we
will not easily becomeexcited, which could avoid further conflicts. The most important, my
mindwon't stop at the circumstance of our faceto face debate.


In consequence, thecommunication way is very important when talking about controversial
things withanother person and an indirect communication method such as sending text
message candecrease the possibility of conflict between two people. In addition, the
indirect way canalso help to keep quiet if one is a sensitive man like me, and it is
more effectivethan a direct way to communicate with others.