本帖最后由 SilviaZho 于 2010-7-2 23:07 编辑
Most people prefer others makingdecision for them than making a decision for themselves
When I was growing up, my parentslike to make decisions for me. Once I want to do something that is not directlybenefit my schoolwork, they always persuade me to give up. Most of my friendsare in the same situation. And finally, they get used to letting others makedecisions for themselves. But I never give up, and still believe that peopleshould be the owner of themselves and to make decision independently.
First of all, thinking independentlyis the exclusive quality of human being. “Ego cogito ergo sum. “ -- I think,therefore I am. That’s what Rene Descartes said in hundreds years ago. Andmaking decision for us is the basic thing to practice thinking independently.In the process of making decision for ourselves, we think independently andlearn environment, situation, and ourselves figuring out what is our favoriteand what matches our interests. It is a real fantastic experience that peoplewho are not willing to make decision for them can never feel.
Secondly, it can be less regretfulwhen the decision is made by us. We are the only one that knows our interests, self-conditions,principle and ethical bottom line. When a decision is made, all these factorsare important and cannot be ignored. If the decision is made by others, mostpeople will realize that the decision is wrong and be regretful. On thecontrary, people who made decision for them -- even they finally realize thedecision is wrong -- will consider that as a further inlook at them and make abetter decision, less regretful.
Thirdly, people making decision for themcan win more admiration and help. It is undeniable that people who areindependent is admirable. That some times means that they are confident,resolute and brave. Those kinds of people always know their own directions, academicallyor professionally. Even one day when they fall in confusion, the ones who knowtheir direction would like to point out a new way for them.
In conclusion, making decision for usis unquestionably a must-equipped quality. We lonely come to the world andlonely leave as an individual, only ourselves can led our lives over thelifelong time. We should grasp the ownership bestowed by the God. Live withidentity, with respect. |