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2009.8.7
parents help determined the future of their children or children
allow to make their own choices.
Although nowadays our culture emphasizes individuality and personality more and more, I do not think most of young adult have developed their ability to choose their future efficiently and correctly. At least, a hippy in 1960s' America had more independence than today's young adult. Though we have higher material civilization to insure our comfortable life, we have lost our nature of adventure and the capacity to mature our spirit life. However it does not means we should depend on our parents to determ
ine our future, in contrast, the first and foremost thing we should do is to develop our own independence.
In our time, most young adult have lost ideal. If parents have high positions in society, depending them can give children chances to get good jobs easily. But if all the purpose of life is just to have higher salary or have a car or big house, this world will become dull, boring and terrible. So as a young adult, in my opinion, the most important thing is not to earn money quickly but to experience his life efficiently. Maybe parents can give their children jobs, but they can never give them the ability of independence.
Moreover, parents may be familiar with the habits of their children in life, but they always be puzzled by their children's value and fashion, that is to say, maybe parents cannot find the job which is suitable to their children. In some extreme cases, for example, some artist like Van Gogh, poet Baudelaire, even Einstein, if their future had been determined by their parents, they would never have their accomplishments, because their parents, like other people in their time, could not understand fully what talent their children had.
Of course, choosing our future independently does not mean we should neglect our parents' advise indifferently. On the contrary, not only we should take our parents' experience, but also absorb other persons' advices as possible as we can. But there is a paradox. I have a friend who depends on her parents closely so that if other's opinion is opposed to her parents' she always stands at the side of her parents blindly. All in all, we should accept people's advices and experience deliberately if they are helpful to our future no matter whether they are our relatives.
In conclusion, if you want to have a great expectation in your life, independence is more important capacity rather than the help from your parents. |
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