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本帖最后由 potpourri 于 2010-6-23 11:10 编辑
6.22 Sometimes, if you can not say anything nice to someone,you should say nothing at all.
Interpersonal communication is one of the key words of our time. Some people tend to keep totally silent when they find it hard praising others, since they believe that saying something bad is absolutely a hamperer to development the relationship. However, as far as I am concerned, it is not wise to say nothing at all if one can not say anything nice to others.
First of all, it is no need to question that the good relationship is based on the principle of honestness and sincerity. If the one is not inclined to violate such a rule, it is almost impossible to avoid saying something negative. On the contrary, if a person tries to please and court others, what he says, though sounds sweet, is actually hypocritical even harmful blandishments, which results in the lose of the trust of others eventually. For example, when asked about the evaluation of a new work finished by his friend, a person rave about it or just keep silent against his will with utility purpose. Once realizing his insincerity, the friend would never seek advice from him and never regard him as a reliable person any more. Thus, when people abide by the proper honest standards, saying something bad is of no harm and even a promoter to the relationship.
Secondly, saying something bad can preclude pitfalls and defend one’s interest. In business world, a experienced colleague points out the drawbacks in the implement plan worked by a novice with criticism and condemnation, which dose prevent the interest of the company from damage. In university campus, a student may reproach his schoolmate for making too much noise in the library in order to guarantee the quiet environment for all students including himself. If the student says nothing, the noise will distracted him form reading books more or less. in this way, bad words play a effective role in reducing and avoiding damage.
In the aggregate, I disagree with the statement that if one can not say anything nice to someone, one should say nothing at all, since bad words is not only a result of sincerity and trust, but also an irreplaceable tool of ensuring the good of individual and the collective. |
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