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It is often not a good thing to move to a new city or to a new country because of the losing of old friends. (20091031NA)
Moving to another city or country often seems exciting to people who always pursue a better life, referring to the different environment, new neighborhood, more convenient transportation, or more opportunities for success. However, those people who place a lot of emphasis on the advantage of living in a new place may be blind to the great loss of such movement, especially the losing of old friends.
To begin with, the considerble distance between the new city and the old one is very likely to undermine the possibility for friends to keep in touch. Dissenters may argue that with the help of Internet and other services, one moving to a new place is still able to continue the friendship by sending emails, postcards or presents. Nonetheless, the friendship built on written messages or symbolic objects is comparatively fragile due to the lack of face-to-face communication. Because of the geological distance, it may take several hours to return to the old place by car, by train or by air, so the sheer inconvenience is a big matter when scheduling to visit the old friends for once, let alone seeing them in person more frequently.
Second, getting to know new friends also poses a threat to maintaining the old friendship. New residents in a city or country have to join in another social network in order to adapt to a different job or a different living place, inevitably forgetting the old social relations. For instance, a teenager who goes to college abroad is going to be involved in a foreign adult society, where people talk as adults, dress as adults, and think as adults. His or her memory of the teenage friendship in the home country, on the other hand, is probably going to dim, because he or she may no longer behave casually and naively like a teenager.[friendship可能模糊,但是不是因为自己不能行为举止不能像teenager那样,而是应该周围没有类似的朋友,是自己忘却了] Also, it is possible that the young person adds the phone numbers of new friends into the cell phone but, owing to the limited storage, has to delete those of the old friends and to put an end to the old friendship.
Finally, in a world changing so quickly nowadays, the distinction between old friends who do not live in the same city or country may get more obvious, endangering the friendship. As an illustration, assume two teenage friends having both been interested in playing basketball were then separated to two different cities. One of them continued such hobby but the other, probably because of more schoolwork, stopped going to the basketball court. When common hobbies not longer existed, it may really be hard for them to remember the days spent together and to revitalize the friendship.
In summary, before moving to a new city or country, people have to take the loss of old friends into deliberation, questioning themselves whether they are ready for a different life and whether they can afford the significant change.
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