seeking for a right man

rabbit750101UID: 145642

I am a girl seeking for my Mr.Right. Is it you???

I graduated from a famous university several years ago. A professor in USA seems to be willing to give me an offer for fall,2004, but it will be difficult for me to get the visa especially as an unmarried woman. So I am looking for a boy friend who can marry me before next summer and be willing to spend life in USA with me....

Pls do not bother me if you are insincere. For me, I am extremely sincere.
Trust me please! Email: rabbit750101@hotmail.com.Thanks.

deepfishUID: 144932

Hi, Rabbit, frankly. it is not wise to risk your marriage for overseas study, it can be dangerous for both you and your would-be Mr. Right. Going abroad is not everything of your life, you have to make sure first whether you can play the game to the end. Anyway, good luck to you.

foolboy007UID: 28322

Yeah!  it is just like play a game! Miss Rabbit should consider this more  seriously.

af2UID: 142252

i want get visa for my wife !
you want get husband for visa!?
good luck to you !
good luck to me too!

jjliyUID: 134309

it will be difficult for me to get the visa especially as an unmarried woman.
I want to know why it is difficult  to get the visa for a unmarried woman ?

rabbit750101UID: 145642

I am free to defend myself now, because I have to work at day.

First of all, I am really appreciated for the advice given by Deepfish. Thanks a lot to you, Deepfish. From your words, I can feel the kindness from a stranger. Second,  However, those who humourously want to give some colors to me and ironically argued that I only want to play a game or want a husband to get a visa. I'd like to say that they as human beings can not appreciate the passion of the struggle for life beauties . I am seeking for my marriage, that is, to seek the most beautiful things in my life. I think pepole who have the courage and confidence to seek their most important things in life should deserve much more respect than those dwarfs who lack the courage and confidence to take any practice.  Third, I don't think I ever lose any nobleness to pursue my life interest by this means  . Because likes must like likes, I think those who appreciate my wisdom and spirits will truly understand me.

Anway, thanks for all of your comments here.

红蝎子UID: 103082

你在哪里啊？
有没有CV贴一份啊？

SF2002UID: 120458

Rabbit750101, I think I quite know your situation.  I believe that you are sure what you excatly want! So plz don't care much about other's words. Go straight! Do what you want! You are a brave girl!

Best wishes!!!

deepfishUID: 144932

Hi, Rabbit, hope this will not bother you.  From your defense I can sense you have your own reasoning to arrnage your marriage before visa interview, you are free to do what you think if right for yourself, I'd like to give my good wishes to you.

I guess I understand your concern a little bit by your calling yourself rabbit, one thing I want to tell you is that sometimes they do not just refuse you because you are unmarried young  woman, I had a colleague who came here for MBA got her visa in three minutes when she was 27 in 2002, she was not married at that time and just said goodbye to her boyfriend because they two have different goals about life. I know visa is a tricky thing and you can never know what will happen in that three to five minutes, and I think you must have seen a lot who got refused with a marriage  certificate too. Think, if some Mr. Right  came to you for overseas life, not only for you and your courage, then you got refused, how are you going to deal with your Mr. Right and marriage at that time. You have less than one year to go before next summer, are you sure you can see somebody clearly  within such a short time?  I think you may get puzzled yourself whether the Mr. Right comes to you for you or for the overseas life, that's why I mean it is like a game, or a gambling.  I do not think any girl would risk her love just for overseas studying, it will be hard for you to feel good about yourself even you have got what you want later. Anyway, studying abroad is a lot and we really have to work hard on it,  I think the promise from the professor has said a lot about you and the efforts you have made, I believe those who work hard deserve what they want, just in a way they can deal with. I hope I have made myself understood and good luck to you.

af2UID: 142252

i want get visa for my wife !
you want get husband for visa!?
good luck to you !
good luck to me too!
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no ! no ! i did not do it !
you mistakens me !
i am regret to do it !
i am sorry to hear that

af2UID: 142252

我是说：假设，
我要是为了 去美国学习或 工作
我觉得我动机就不那么单纯！！
我想，等我到了美国后，假设，在妻子和学业或其他之间会选择什么！
我相信，我会忧郁！ 换谁谁都会！
但 我告诉自己！ 为老婆去的！
我去美国之后，遇见分歧时 ，我想 ，我会义无返顾的站在老婆这边！

这就是动机 驱动着行动！
为老婆 而 去美国 和她 共同经历

实际上，你是想找个老公共同去美国 相互帮助！
而不是
but it will be difficult for me to get the visa especially as an unmarried woman.
（译：对我来说取得visa将是困难的特别对一个为婚女士！）

强调：我所争论的 是一种观点！
如果放在任何人上，我将放弃这个争论的 权利！
我不是在讽刺！ 我是在发表我的观点！

af2UID: 142252

死了算了！   说国语还有方言！

rabbit750101UID: 145642

Hi Deepfish,

Many thanks for all of your concerns on my problem. You surely would not bother me. Of course, I do consider marriage a serious thing to everyone. However, I would not be willing to marry a man who I have known him very clearly after many years of investigating him. You know, youth is limited, the length of life is limited as well. I do not want to be an unmarried woman until in my forties, or even fifties, sixties, seventies… In some words, I believe the old Chinese saying ‘一见钟情'. I think half of a year is long enough for me to get an answer whether the man is my Mr. Right who would be deserved for me to marry him.  I think the right person should emerge into one’s life on the right time. Perhaps, there will be in future some Mr.Righter or even Mr. Righter Righter who is much better than this Mr.Right, but I can not afford any more time to await his emergency now. Actually, many girls who are as old as I have already been in their marriages. I only want to get more opportunities to choose my Mr. Right by this way.   Living in this complex world, I not only want to struggle for making a living by the power held by myself, but also want someone to give me the spirit power to struggle. And he will share both my joys and sadness in my life. Of course I will share his joys and sadness too. I believe love is based on the mutually understanding each other for one couple. Yes, I must admit life just like a gambling and we never know whether we are going to win or lose before we have to stand at the gate to the Heavens. But it is a stupid creature too who would like to give up the right of playing the life game in order to avoid some doomed loss.

At the same time, I must admit that I do not have 100% sureness that I will get the visa even after I was married.  Therefore, the some Mr. Right must have his own ability to deal with different situations in his life. But if we had already beloved each other deeply, then there should be no problem for us to continue to live together in China.   I think it is unwise for anyone to put all eggs into only one basket. Thus, I plan to continue to work if I failed to get the visa.

Actually, I wish the some Mr. Right would be a GTER like me, struggling for studying abroad now, or someone who has already been USA.  Even if I failed to find out him this time, I shall have no regret because I have already made my best endeavors.

Finally, thank you for your warm words really!

deepfishUID: 144932

Hi, Rabbit,  I understand the way of your thinking, actually I had some similar ideas as yours when I was like you. I will just keep my finger crossed and wish you would meet the right guy at the right time. Hope I can see your message here next summer before your leaving. Don't worry even you do not find the Mr. Ritht yet at that time, you can also think some other ways to help youself, a decent job there can help you a lot when they judge whether you will come back or not, several overseas travelling experiences maybe helpful too, you know yourself best but  the most important thing is the way you carry yourself before the visa officer during that short time, also, some luck will help you get there, good luck.

yoyocatUID: 95662

路过的，不打扰了。。。