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发表于 2010-6-24 09:19:07
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In contemporary world ,the issue of honest has long been in the heated discussion. The perspectives towards it varies from person to person. some people want to gain favour of others ,they choose to cheat by nice words, while others like to be sincere, so they always tell other their true feelings. as far as I am concerned, the assertion that is , one should do their best to be honest to others may overlook some premises ,but the central spirit of it is still valid. Ample practical empirics and researches are given to support my point of view.
To start up, those people always say nice words often fail to gain respect of others .common sense tell us people always tend to value people who are open-minded to others. People are more likely to make friends without those who always telling the truth ,even the true words may sometimes may be offensive or unpleasant to listen. But to those people who always tell soft words, people may give a smile but not respect. In a company,the managers value more their straight- forward employees instead of staff that always cater the high class while make no constructive advice.in our dairly life,nice words may bring a hounmoris climate temporary,but make one untrustworthy .
Another overwhelming reason can be presented to support my view is that sometimes saying something straight forward is more helpful that pleasant words telling truth to others is the best way to help others. The reason is simple. Only presented by others’ authentic feelings can those who faced with dilemma learn deeply about the fact. If some one are always told the nice word, they may hardly learn the flaws behind the appearance. A historical event can be lent to establish an example. In tang dynasty, the president lishiming strengthen his authority by adopting advice provided by his subordinates wei zhen .weizhen made his suggestion a way that is hard to be accpeted .conversly, li shiming’s grandson failed to dominant the dynasity because people surround him always told him his mertis. Clearly another point can be made that even those words maybe to some extant unpleasant, but they are actually meaningful to others
Admittedly, sincere words intended to advice others or present true feelings sometimes results in reverse consequence. This is because not everyone is willing to accept those honest but well-listening words at anytime. Take me for example, once I was upset about my exam scores, my deskmate pointed out my shortcomings in study without considering my bad-mood. I felt more hopeless. In this case ,if my destmate transform his direct way to a more sweet style ,I think I will be more pleasant to adopt to his suggestion. This case told me sometimes if we are making recommendation or unpleasant assessment, we should think for a few seconds that if we can make the propose more acceptable by others. by this way, our intended goal will be better achieved.
All in all, though nice words could avoid qurrals or unhappiness, but it could not make others value you also could not help others. I propose we should tell truth instead of nice words to others ,further we could choose a more smooth way to express us. |
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