过去很多毋庸置疑的东西,原来是可以质疑的。人生原来可以有无数的活法。记得有次老公对我说,“You can do anything, go anywhere. Just think about 'What do you want to do?'”一下子把我说愣了。
面临Unlimited Options,我反倒感到迷茫起来,因为我从来没有question过自己的人生模式:上学、工作、买房、买车(Mortgage)、假期出去旅游、退休。老公摇摇头,说那只是大多数人的活法。“Use your head and be creative”。我更是惊讶于他的用词,要活得Creative!
不过,经过了3年的思考和experiment,尽管我的“如何活着”的计划还未成熟,但已经有些眉目。最好的是我们可以随时改变计划,或者说没有计划,只有方向。Be happy, be healthy and be creative!
结尾处,引用毛姆的一句话“There is only one life, and I want to live it successfully”,还有我喜欢的一部电影的台词“The only limit is yourself...”与你共勉!作者: clioli 时间: 2002-9-21 21:53:00 标题: 也许
也许你说的每一点都对,但是明显把生活理想化了。作者: Daj 时间: 2002-9-22 13:05:55 标题: 人在北美,什么最好? II
some people living in china do have lots of money, but never feel happy, and worried about others take over what he had, or worried about how to be richer. People wants to be with each other but hate each other too. Their only happiness is based on the money. getting or loosing.
Here, in Canada, I make $12 / hour, have two day off a week, I can go to library, laying down the trees in Algonquin Park, watching old John driving his old 1977 huge Buick zooming behind and say Hi to me. He don’t really care about his neighbor who has a brand new Mercedes.
2. respect
people will not forget to say “thank you” when I was just a cleaner. or the old lady, the household, would like to give me a drink when I do gardening for her. And invited me to visit her elegant house. And his husband lay in the wheel chair introduce to me his proud collections.
Whether poor or richer, have the equal right to ask for equal public service. And people are still fighting for this equality.
3. myself
When I was in china. I was working, night clubbing, Karaokeing very hard trying to demonstrate to others that I was a successful man. I living not by myself but by how the imaging by others. I was living surrounded by people who keep telling who his father is, or who he knows, and no one cares who himself is. I too, i know friends not by himself but by the son of some other person that i want to know.
Now in Canada I don’t care if I am telling you my first job was $4.5 / hour in a Vietnam supermarket. And I got promoted $20 more every two weeks. the boss really likes me. Since I am happy and hard work. (he even respect me since he accidentally know I was a PhD. But I still enjoy driving with half naked)