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本帖最后由 ZoeX 于 2012-8-1 18:36 编辑
It's believed that honesty is one of the most essential characters in modern world which is full of tricks and conspiracy. According to that, several people insist that individuals should always be totally honest to their friends. While considering the fact that not lying to friends for a lifetime is impossible and unnecessary, and even sometimes lying to friends is out of a helpful motive, my viewpoint is on the opposite side.
For the one thing, always telling the truth is not an easy thing, or we can say, it's impossible. There is a series of dates could perfectly prove it. The psychology department in University of California, Iwrine has done a research in 1989, in this research, over 30,000 people who are in different country, status, age, render took part in. They were asked if they have lied. The result turned out that only less than 0.1% people said they have never lied. The result seemed incredible, but it did can be explained. It's common that we run into a situation that we have to lie. For instance, as the company's classified documents are involved with the friends' chatting topics which is to say, telling the truth to someone may lose your fidelity to others (这样表述会不会清楚一点?)at some times.(然后弱弱地问一句,这个实验是真的么?)
Another reason involves the necessity to be completely honest all the time. I think a number of people had the following experience. When chatting with friends, the theme of the conversation refers to privacy issues such as code of credit card, the ID number. Actually friends do not mean to acquire the information, but if we refuse to tell, it may hurt their feeling. Telling the authentic information would put our personal safety in a dangerous situation, because the important message could be heard by other person. So be entirely honest to friends is unneeded.我觉得这个例子更像是出于安全考虑,necessity 貌似是不说实话也不会伤害感情的感觉,个人意见哈~
What's more, lying could be a tool to ev30353ade embarrassed and heart-broken in certain situation. The event that my best friend Jennifer had been through could directly prove that. Her grandma who raised her up passed away right before her final test. I knew the bad news from my mom. I thought I have to be honest to my best friend at that time. So I told her, she was really sad and obviously failed in the important test. The decision is a huge mistake, I pretty regret even it happened 5 years ago. In certain occasion, white lie is necessary.
In a nutshell, according to the reason mentioned above, that always being entirely honest to friends is a dispensable and unlikable, even hurtful. I endorsed the statement that it's impossible to tell truth to your friend forever.
然后感叹一下写得真好!能从不同层面找到足够的论点和例子去支撑……俺是想了很久都不知道怎么下笔的娃QAQ |
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