关于爱情的几点想法

FabriciusUID: 2103254

不知道，对不对，不对可以给板砖。

1.  爱情的复杂性取决于其不确定性，因为涉及到两个人，所以对于爱情的任一方来说，这是一个不确定的问题。

2.  美满的爱情之所以最后能够美满，在于双方对于他们之间爱情都持有乐观心态，对未来抱有希望。或者说，双方对于不确定的爱情是相信的。（这是一个假设）

3.  爱情中的一方对爱情的不乐观，如果让另外一方知道，那么在另一方看来，爱情的不确定性增加了。呵呵，用个big word， 就是说爱情的熵增加了。 并且，在爱情中的一方对爱情不乐观的同时，因为不乐观，在该方看来，理论上，爱情的机会成本是增加了，从而会有一种压力，如果足够大的话（这个足够大又是一个假设），会使该方会减少投入程度。从而导致双方对爱情的不确定性的增加，从而导致另一方对爱情的乐观程度的减少。而这种另一方的减少，遵循上面的过程，使得第一方继续减少，从而形成一个雪崩效应。导致爱情的熵的持续增加。

得出一个小结论，如果对爱情不确定但还是有乐观心态，不要告诉对方你对爱情的不确定。这种行为很有可能会增加你日后对爱情的不确定的程度。如果对爱情的结果持乐观态度，最好多做一些让对方也更加确定爱情的行为。从某种意义上来说，这也是一种雪崩效应，是上述过程的逆过程。

[ 本帖最后由 Fabricius 于 2006-11-19 00:42 编辑 ]

wefreeUID: 162249

第三点写得很好
但现在很少有人对爱情都持很乐观的态度了。。
也很少人乐观的情况下会不顾一切的付出了

magic_zhaoUID: 2137791

参考一下博弈论..
:D

FabriciusUID: 2103254

Thank you for your comment.  

Yes, I can feel that some times she just not pays enough attention on me and that upset me a lot.  But I would rather believe that she loves me.  

You words make me feel better.  Thank you.  

And also thank you all upstairs for your commenting.  I would rather believe love is a true feeling that no one will play tricks in, but sometimes we might need some little techniques to make this relationship more solid.  

Recently and a long time through recently,  when i went to the BBS like Tianya and GTer, I would found a lot of the posts were about the distrust in love.  Every time I read those posts, I did not feel good and some times made me rather depressed.  I don't know why there would be so many cheating on this planet and people even lie to and play with those person who would even get his/her heart out their bosom for the lover.  That's a crime.  Love's the only one solid relationship that we could rely on and trust for eternity besides family relationship. Love is finally developing into the famiy relationship.  I don't know why those people would make other people not to trust and not to believe and distribute the unfaithfulness all around.  

I would say, if we love, we will trust.  We cannot let in any distrust in any more.

[ 本帖最后由 Fabricius 于 2006-11-18 07:36 编辑 ]

lanqiao1225UID: 2133594

this post is  perfect, I like it

lingli_xiaoaiUID: 172506

lz的贴的观点很有意思
我觉得爱一个人是不需要技巧的，但是你要把两个人的爱维持下去，光是爱是不够的。
爱也是需要EQ的吧，不要以爱为名义去伤害别人。

deification8UID: 2116307

好帖,换个BBS,应该是十大了.

Love is love, it's unique.

等爱的狐狸UID: 163550

i begin to don't believe in love, why god let me wait for such a long time? I already don't have the power to believe it still exists for me

coffeboyUID: 2143295

爱情太理性就不是爱情了
呵呵
其实爱情更象一个宠物

yezhenyuUID: 2201973

这3条想法对有的傻瓜不适用。
有的傻瓜死也不动摇。
这些傻瓜是幸福的~

zhixintxUID: 2119874

although the true love is much less in the material world, I still believe that it exists in universe!

generUID: 119764

爱情用的是心，不是头脑……

bluebloodUID: 2101257

ha ha ~~谁又相信谁 谁又不相信谁呢~~~哈哈

babymonkeyUID: 2250057

我就是这样的傻瓜！呵呵 相信爱情吧。那会带给你幸福和快乐的！