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pippo1983UID：172110

TOPIC: ISSUE130 - "How children are socialized today determines the destiny of society. Unfortunately, we have not yet learned how to raise children who can help bring about a better society."
WORDS: 641(724)          TIME: 0:36:13          DATE: 2007-3-24
1儿童世界和社会有很大差别
2进入社会后会不适应，引起很多问题
3我们不是不知道怎么教孩子，而是没有去做

Socialization, as far as I am concerned, is about how to adjust one’s behaviour to be acceptable by the society. From this point of view, I agree with this claim that the socialization of children determines the destiny of the society. But I do not think we have not learned how to raise them. The fact, however, is that we exclude ourselves from children’s socialization.

There is a large gap between children's world and adults' society. The adults' society is sophisticated and complicated while the children's world is pure and simple. Children do not need to consider how to raise the family, how to deal with the intricate interpersonal relationship, how to please the boss. The only thing they need to take care of is the study. All they do everyday is just play around and communicate with other children they like. In contrast, adults need to contact and communicate with many people, and whether they like them or dislike is not the most important thing in their mind. For example, a man may need to tolerate his boss even though he does not like his opinions or his personality. For children, they can simply choose to stay away from those who they do not like, or even to do some drastic behaviour such as to beat them. Children have their own rules to direct their behaviours, which is more direct, simpler and sometimes more drastic than adults' rules.

Because of the difference between the two worlds, many children will feel difficult and frustrated to be accustomed to the society after they grow up, which may lead to some serious problems. One thing many Chinese employers have complained a lot is that they often find that their new graduate workers lack of some basic social skills. As an adult, one often needs to compromise, to negotiate, and to avoid conflicts. But these newcomers often behave in immature or even childish ways. It is found that they often complain and have conflicts with their colleagues. As a result, they are usually described by many adult people as immature, childish and unsocial. Or even worse, some young men use some extreme ways to represent their discontent by committing crimes. For instance, Jiajue Ma, a college student, killed his four roommates because of some small conflicts. Clearly the growing process of Ma did not make him socialize and consequently he still likes to use children’s direct nut more extreme way to solve social problem—killing. Social critics and researchers point out that the society fails to socialize children and attribute the failure to our ignorance of raising children.

However, I disagree with this conclusion. What we need to learn to socialize children? We have been socialized so we know what the socialization is. The only thing we need to teach children is just our own experience, our history and stories. We help them to define values and rules from what we have learned in our lives. It is not an impossible task as the construction of Babel. We can directly and easily talk and communicate with our children we often see and stay together with. Unfortunately, we often fail to do so because we alienate ourselves from children’s world. How many times are you so impatient to hear children’s talking about their schools and friends because you regard it as childish. How many time did you interrupt children’s complain because you were bored by businesses and working issues. Many surveys indicate that children feel lonely and prefer to stay with their peers who are also unsocialized. In fact, to help children be socialized does not need to take us so much time, but patience. Besides parents, communities and schools can also do their own contribution to the socialization such as encouraging children to participate in neighborhood and social activities. There are not much things we need to learn to socialize children, but there are a lot of things needs to be done.

In conclusion, children's socialization process is so vital that it needs us to be more involved in the process. We need to focus more and get ourselves more involved in the process. After all, as a proverb said, “the world belongs to us and the children, but it will finally belong to children alone.” It is the child who can build a better future, but we need to help them first.

pippo1983UID：172110

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pippo1983UID：172110

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yuyan13UID：2288705

楼主太强了，不用45分钟就可以飞600多字了:funk:
但为何你对“How children are socialized today determines the destiny of society”这句话视而不见了呢，而且有个问题是，似乎要看到最后一段才明白前两段的铺垫谓之何物，不知老美会不会有这个耐心啊:rolleyes:

pippo1983UID：172110

汗。。。昨天的贴子被顶上来。。。。
多谢提醒，我以后会注意不断重复观点的。。。这个写的有点太随意了。。。。不知道这样的散文有什么样的效果。。。。。

小鹿乱撞UID：2287538

楼主好厉害。。。。36分钟就洋洋洒洒600字。。。。。><lz是不是直接跳过印证第一句话"How children are socialized today determines the destiny of society. "哈？
如果是的话，开头的时候没有必要讲你同意作者的这个观点吧~~~~想个办法省掉这点呢？

pippo1983UID：172110

其实第一段是第二段的铺垫，第二段说明孩子社会化的重要性，因为很重要所以会determine，应该多说几句就好了。。终于知道错在哪儿了，谢谢:handshake