issue1,第一次写I，希望大家猛拍

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issue1 第一篇issue,，希望大家猛拍

提纲
那些和我们想法不一样的人能帮我们更多
1相同观点的坏处
（1）我们很难发现自己的错误，不能进步
（2）我们总是会认为自己是正确的，变得自傲，目中无人
2不同观点的好处
（1）不同观点的争论，不论对错，都能收获很多
（2）即使引起了一些压力，我们学会去控制和调节，这也是一种能力的提升
3 不是所有情况下有相同观点的人就不好，有时候所有人必须迅速达成一致才能做好，比如足球，篮球等团队运动，

as one of the most crucial targets that we contact with each other is to promote ourselves and to reach our life goals, thus choosing a friend who is always consented with you is not as effective as a guy who usually hold a distinct opinion in self development, especially taken into consideration the complexity of coping with your flaws, and that what we could really reap from a relationship from those who is more likely to raise disagreement with you




at the first place ,remembering that the views you shared with others may not definitely the conclusive ones even though both of you are so assertive ,this misconception may lead you to error. imagine that you are stuck by a abstruse mathematical problem, though straighten you out to find out one probable approach ,this uncertainty would be easily exterminated because one of your friends get the same idea, then you proceed without realizing that both of you are erroneous and thus you miss a fantastic opportunity of working this problem out correctly ,you even can not enumerate how many times similar occasions occurred, of cause you can not ,simply because in myriad cases you are obscured by truth
till now ,how can anyone promote just a step if he can not discern what he has done wrong ,so it is
adhering with your friends who always possess a homogeneous idea that would handicap your progress



another much more serious problem derived from this situation is that you would gradually and unconsciously become presumptuous and overbearing ,it is obvious that anyone would be enraptured by this kind of mini successes that solving problems easily and readily without any dispute or contradiction with other people ,therefore , the consequence of being not inclined to ask others even those who agree with you at most of the time for suggestion or advice is foreseeable ,not considering any proper guide, you would be resolved to make any vital decision ,many of them ,of course ,may be not advisable ,some of these mistakes even would threaten your future ,such as whether to study abroad,whether to get a divorce ,a choice of major or a selection of occupation,unfortunately ,though really doleful it is to get a wrong direction of your life ,quite a lot of them are irreversible ,what i mean is advices from others are indeed essential to our life, no matter from who, but the friend who usually share the same opinion with you would impose you a wrong idea that you do not need them




admittedly ,disagreement from you with your divergent friend would inevitably cause debate and argument, some of them may harshly and drastically,however, you do not need to go far to find that in the process of disputing with your friend ,the point of the problem shift to the nature of certain issues from
the old wreck argument that who are right and who are wrong ,for example ,when i was young ,I once argued with my friends that which of a heavier and lighter ball would reach the ground when they were simultaneously dropped from the third floor, I just know that they would at the same time arrive at the first floor, but can not offer a concrete elaboration ,whereas my buddy insist that bigger one
would go faster without reasonable explanation as well ,trying our best effort to convince the other ,we took out pertinent books of physics ,surfed on the internet for authoritative information ,finally ,we got the ultimate answer about this question with deeply comprehension of
the processes of gravitation ,this case is just one of numerous ones who assist us ignore the dispensable surface of an event then uncover the conclusive truth, so conflict between friends is not ,can not be deleterious ,instead it is momentous in the obtainment of knowledge



somebody may assert that those stress may really embarrass and cause unhappiness between friends ,this statement also contravene the value of learning ,because realization of the entire definition of study that the promotion of your capability ,would lead you to understand that handling this stress ,exerting to mitigate it ,are equally important compared to pursuing the answers, why ? an obvious example is the continuous argue for the correctness of The Origin of Species, a theory advocated by most scientists, but loathed by people from religious domain, some scientists even pointed out that some bishops and clergymen are definitely lyres, the conflict between them are still enduring nowadays, I wonder whether those clergymen would more easily accept this clear truth if both of them adopt a milder attitude to each other ,so the ability of controlling the stress is a vital goal that we should gain




to sum up ,I agree that those people who always support with you ,in some cases are really helpful and necessary, especially in the team sport like football ,basketball, volley ball, all of which need a highly developed sense of team spirit, your team members must obey your leader and always think about what the other players will do next ,then you could win the game ,nonetheless,in most cases ,more communications with your friends who like to argue with you is a wiser choice .for the reason that you would see the object you argue about from an totally various angle ,which would help you attain some invaluable insights ,that you as well enhance the ability of dealing with the stress and tension between you
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