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8/Letting a friend make a mistake is better than saying or doing something that may destroy your friendship?
We might always meet some problems about friendship. Sometimes it seems to be tough to solve and even makes us in dilemma. The major reason is our concern about its destruction of the precious friendship. However, in the case that my friend may make a mistake, I will definitely fulfill my duty to warn him/her of the adverse situation.
First, I think that is what a real friend must do. I can sacrifice for my friends, even the cost is our friendship, as long as it provides them with the optimal situation. Therefore, taking the risk of destruction of friendship is worthy. For instance, when I was in middle school, one of my best friends, with whom we played basketball every day, developed a habit of smoking. He might think it was very cool and a symbol of being mature. However, I knew this would make an adverse effect on his growth. Obviously, smoking is harmful to his health and also it may lead him to a wrong way which may ruin his life. So, I told him of my opinion and advised him of stopping smoking although he was apparently unhappy to hear that. But as what I have said, that is what a true friend should do.
Moreover, I am a person who prefers direct way than an indirect way. I often ask my friend to tell me their genuine thoughts in order to make our relationship simpler. Because it is such a boring and complex thing to guess other people's opinions. Hiding your heart to your friends is not a good approach to maintain a friendship in a long term, as the dissent accumulates more and more, it will finally explode one day. When that happens, it is already too late to make compensation. In the same way, as mistakes accumulated, it will lead to a disastrous circumference. That is to say, in a long period of time, you are actually ruining your friends.
Last but not the least, good communication will possibly bring it to the best situation. Both your friend cognize his/her mistake and the friendship perpetuates. As the example I give in the former paragraph, it did take some time for my friend to acknowledge the mistake, but he gave up on smoking after several weeks. Also, he trusted me further than before.
In conclusion, never hesitate to tell your friends they are doing something wrong, with effective social skills, your friends will ultimately choose to follow your suggestions and it will also promote your friendship more stable.
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