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昨天发了两个帖子都发不出来 一直显示在审核 这是怎么了？？？

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阿正1218 发表于 2015-6-17 16:01
昨天发了两个帖子都发不出来 一直显示在审核 这是怎么了？？？

那是因为你的帖子涉及本论坛的敏感词

例如 办~~~证，非XX成XXwu 扰~~

美少女，长老也jimo，有空we chat：421166308

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Jay2 发表于 2015-6-17 20:19
那是因为你的帖子涉及本论坛的敏感词

例如 办~~~证，非XX成XXwu 扰~~

没有哟~ 没有办证 也没有feichengwurao
里头也没有什么政治敏感词汇
不懂得为什么

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截个小图~~

纪念在我们共同的努力下，已经突破4000大关~\(≧▽≦)/~啦啦啦 撒花

  开心得又要飞奔起来了呢  奔跑吧！阿正老师~~~

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阿正1218 发表于 2015-6-16 15:44
6.16 职业规划访谈

今天整理简历各种文件发现的 希望大家觉得有用

这里出了bug，连续上交文件两次，讲的是同一个内容哈~ 大家看84楼就好啦

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二璐A_lulu 发表于 2015-5-16 15:42
其实看了楼主的记录，我还是挺憧憬的，哈哈 不要说我变态，我喜欢香港那种每个人都穿的光鲜亮丽，打扮的很精 ...

不错挺好 够积极

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阿正1218 发表于 2015-6-16 15:36
2015.6.16  Potential Career Path
以下是楼主和已经在高校工作的同学朋友关于职业的对话，姑且叫它职业规 ...

每次从学姐这里看到的信息，除了觉得也许会对自己今后有帮助之外，还会觉得让以后不确定的生活多了一些勇气。
学姐记得看一下私信，之前私过你的

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一起加油～！

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这周接到后台小伙伴问我为何迟迟不更贴的消息，又开心又惭愧地说：最近转（zai）型（tou）期（lan），哈哈哈，现在来补贴！

7.4 绝处逢生
我其实在上个月做了三个礼拜之后，把尖沙咀那份工作辞了，实在是每天都产生负能量，一定要去争取做自己觉得向往的工作，不然就会像我这么纠结，明明不甘心，又很鸡肋地纠结此不辞职，最后时间也耗了，事情也未必做得好

我觉得用“绝处”这个词 其实用得有点大，但是还蛮符合我最近的经历 一直告诫自己“闷声发大财”
但是有了好消息还是忍不住想要跟最亲近的人分享
我应该可以在我最喜欢的大学做行政工作啦！！！！！
先mark住这份喜悦 继续回去做毕业设计采访了

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阿正1218 发表于 2015-7-4 20:34
这周接到后台小伙伴问我为何迟迟不更贴的消息，又开心又惭愧地说：最近转（zai）型（tou）期（lan），哈哈哈 ...

哇
恭喜！
在自己喜欢的大学工作这也太棒了
之前的闷也不算什么了

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7.5 周一 “守株待兔”的力量

今天去尖沙咀领上个月打酱油的工资，拿到钱的感觉还是棒棒的（哈哈哈哈哈哈）
回来的路上，就在想，什么是抓住机会？
其实抓住机会这个动作有几个分解动作，学会忍受无趣、沉闷、或者平凡也是其中的必修课
具体一点，描述一个场景，比如说我们很多时候应聘入职，都是冲着一个机会去的，或者说我们看到直接的利害关系吸引，比较明确地知道自己的收益，于是我们决定all in or all out

在这么浮躁的大环境，其实有时候，年轻的我们，还需要另一种精神，就是守候的力量
我们常常会看到可能我们认为在同一个群体里头，不是最厉害的那个人，他得到promotion，加薪了，得到上级的信任了。可能会有人os，“要不是谁谁谁走了，怎么可能轮得到他呢！”，“捡漏捡的太刚好了呀这是”
嗯，是的，如果我们假设那些没有离开的人都没有离开，他确实没有太大的概率，但是我们也知道，我们的假设只是假设，离开的人也已经离开，他其实只是因为一份坚韧，守候到一份他应得的奖励。

太多时候，我们需要明确的具体奖励，如果在我们认为比较长的（其实相对而言还是比较短的）时间里没有迅速达到我们的预期，我们就否定它，或者决定丢弃它。现在的人才市场已经决定优秀的人才的较高流动性。一位有一技之长的人，到哪里，其实都可以做到他分内应该完成的任务，但是如何寻找一种向上的可能，其实需要时间、耐心的守候。
离开的理由有很多 可能可以归纳为 前一个工作的机会不够好 或者后一个机会比较好
但是其实好坏对比之间（除非实力悬殊很大）其实是很违心的 更多时候 是我们没有耐心去等一个不明确的可能性 我们要即时满足 来不得半点拖延和耽误

但可能就是在你跳槽的第二个月，你认为一个不如你的同事就做到了你原来渴望的位置；可能就是在你转身的不久，你看到你原来要买的包已经不在你留神过的橱窗里（当然也可能是被勤快的橱窗设计人员更替了 哈哈哈）在二十出头乃至三十前后的人生，可能我们看不到频繁跳槽和只在一个地方专注的区别，可能你可以看到是前者的薪水比起后者来得多（前提是两人资质差不多 第一个起步平台也差不多高度）但是十年之后，对于领域的深度和影响领域的力度 自然会浮现出来
左顾右盼的人生很难有深刻的痕迹

我之前也在反思自己究竟不断尝试 但是没有绝对的坚持是不是会对自己的职业成长有硬伤 希望自己不要太任性地选择 当我要结束一件事情，也会反复问自己，确实是有这个必要，才走。
为自己的决定负责，也是给可能性创造一种可能

然后你才有更大的概率 比别人看到机会 完成更快地抓住机会的最后一步收官动作

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7.5 刚刚碎碎念完之后 汇报一下日常学习以及其他申请的一些进度

1. 这周开始7.9就要在我最爱的坑U学生处上班啦~\(≧▽≦)/~啦啦啦  是不是要低调呀 哈哈哈不过这份工作是shortterm的，根据工作量再决定续约时间长度（保佑我一直续约续满一年！！！！！）
2. 论文类：从周末开始进行访谈，目前完成6个毕业生访谈，2more to go，然后就要开始采访老师啦，我觉得我应该要重新整理一下文献综述诶
3. 我大概截止6.30，投了差不多10份左右的香港高校职位申请，这些都没有直接的referee 目前也都很统一地没有什么动静，幽幽地叹一声
4. 拿了一份什么财富管理的面试，过了一面，这周二面，就当去刷面筋吧（挖鼻孔）

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---------------------------------Letter to my mentor Phil on July 17, 2015----------------------------
Dear Phil,

How are you? It has been a long time since last time I talk with you about my future plan. I want to mention it again now.



I remember you asked me before that if I do not like education field, why I keep choosing it as my major? It is a good question, thus I am still trying to answer it with my consistent exploration. It is not because I do not want to try other things as my dream major, it is about how will I be assessed and to which extend of possibility I can pass. I have to use what I have to earn ticket to higher platform. There is weak light for me just exchange my major to other field I do not know about.

In current short term position, I do learn a lot, from building up the basic professional habit to office common sense. These days, I have been reviewing the visa applications from PhD and MPhil candidates, for requirement of job, I need to look through their CV, and I found different style of life experience and possibility.



I keep asking myself that where I am going to? And which field I am going to?  When I got a bunch of low grades, I comfort myself that I have done a lot, and GPA is not that important and all for me. Meanwhile, I still feel sad for the poor academic performance, even though I understand that I deserve it because I barely contribute my time and thoughts for it in the past year. Apart from study, I thought I had done a lot to know better about myself in the practice. In the past academic year in Hong Kong, I have been a research assistant in academic field, a marketing research project designer and acting leader. In order to get the first hand of information and resources, I make my effort in CSSA-HKU, for strong sense of belonging, I join GGG as student ambassador of HKU, and having a good time in DANSO Team.



This is not the first time but will not be the last time either to mention about the financial topic. It is the last month of the rental contract of my house. After continuing arguing with my current boyfriend, i feel very unsafe and lost for my future plan. It induces me to think about "staying or leaving Hong Kong" for the first time. In our previous conversation, I expressed my desire and explanation to stay in Hong Kong. Now, I ask myself again, my answer become vague. Of course, it is not only caused by the relationship, but also a self-identification about myself. I also calculate the cost and earning I am going to have after graduation. The answer turns out to be surprising, Shanghai looks like a better, safer and easier option.  

After I make my decision to get my master in specialism of higher education, I modify my career target as a student advising officer or admission officer in higher education field. But now, What kind of person I want to be? In one year? Three years even ten years? Will it shift, and will I realize them on the earth of Hong Kong? Or I have to move in order to realize my career goal? The average of life span in Shanghai now is about 84, I am 23 yet to be 24. I have almost three fourths of life to do more exploration. But why I am so afraid of making any mistakes in my life? I guess one of the reasons is my growing family background, which makes me pretty sensitive and eager to be successful. In another words, I am tired of floating around like leaves.



I am less stronger than I am suppose to be, that's my recent emotional update. I hope my poor logic does not make you confused.

It is so nice to have your around as my friend as my godfather. As I am who you are knowing about that I will always overcome the obstacles to be stronger and better woman.



Best regards,

Jin

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---------------------------------Letter to my mentor Phil on July 18, 2015----------------------------
Hi Jin,

      I'd like to think that I am your " God-father" and friend, but more importantly, as a person who cares about you and will listen to you without judging you. You do not ask me to provide you with any answers to your situations nor can I provide you with all the answers. I like to think that eventually you will have have answers to your situation based on your own personal experiences and education. I, too, at your age of 23 had the same questions about my life. I don't know if I ever told you but I failed academically at Penn State because of poor scholarship. Yes, I went there for 4 years but I failed most of my courses and I could not return to Penn State. Because I was not in school, I was drafted into the U.S. Army and sent to Vietnam at the age of 23. I was scared of being killed when I first arrived there and stayed on the Army base the first couple of months. However, I felt that I could not live my life like this and I thought that if I was going to be killed, so be it! So I went out and got to become friends with the Vietnamese people and came to love them. When I got out of the Army at 25, I had no college degree and no work experience other than the Army. I was, as the saying goes, "Up the creek without a paddle". This means that I had absolutely nothing in my life...no money; no education other than a high school diploma; and NO Future!! I had one thing going for me though...I wanted to be personally satisfied in whatever I did. So I went back to school and people are amazed when I tell them that I graduated from Penn at the age of 30 y.o.; got my Masters from Temple at 35 y.o.; and was a Doctoral degree candidate at 58 y.o.
      When Trudy and I got married, I was working during the day making less than $15,000 a year and going to school at night. Sure there were questions in my mind whether I will be confident in myself and have the knowledge and experience to be successful and support a family composed of a wife and 4 children. I like to say that I can be proud of myself because I have learned a lot while "growing up". I can say that I was not personally satisfied with my life until I started working with international students and that was back in 2007. Only recently, can I say that I feel happiness in my life because I felt that I contributed something to international students lives. Yes, I had a lot of doubts and fears when I was your age but one thing that I did not do was to compromise my values. I did not do things that I believed was wrong. If you live according to your values and principles, combined with your energy, enthusiasm, compassion, and kindness, you will be all right and you will obtain your personal goals, happiness and confidence. We never stop learning and it is all right to make mistakes because that is what learning is all about. However, self-doubt can be your worse enemy. So follow your beliefs, values, education, and heart and you will start believing in yourself.
      Whenever you are available, I will be available to chat with you. I believe in you and you can do it, but only you will know what brings you happiness!!
Take care and I hope that you have a nice weekend,

Phil

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7.21 很久很久没更新 不是我停止了思考和努力 而是在想 怎么做才能更好一些 才能让自己更从容一些

其实我也不知道怎么做比较好 只能一点点学一点点感受。花了很多的时间 去听每个人不同的体验不同的判断以及寻求不同的建议
然而，兼听则明是建立在自己有自己的判断体系的。我有时候想，其实就像我们为什么不被鼓励只刷知乎、微信公众号等给予我们碎片信息的资讯，因为我们容易迷失在断章取义的未完善里；同样，在我们掌握扎实的基本功之前，迫切地去征求周围所有的声音其实只是想要找到克服困难的捷径。
可是成功没有捷径，你需要面对的困顿、焦虑终究要自己去克服，
然后我们才能成为一个更完整的更好的人