本帖最后由 gy0510150556 于 2009-8-27 19:20 编辑
Letting a friend make a mistake is better than saying or doing something that may destroythe friendship 1 every individual has his or her own personal space, which should not be disturbed by others, even if the most intimate friends. In this manner, people are not supposed to try to prevent their friends from making mistakes at the cost of the breakdown of friendship. 2 even if our friends make mistakes, it might not a bad thing because through the mistakes, they can learn more or even start to attempt a new method with full initiative, which is beneficial to their success.
All the splendor in the world is not worth a good friend", the voice of Voltaire can best describe the importance of friends. However, here comes a question that whether people have the responsibility to check friends from making mistakes, even if they have to bear the distress of friendship breakdown. In my opinion, I deem letting a friend make a mistake is better than saying or doing sth that may destroy the friendship. My reasons are as follows.
First of all, every individual has his or her own personal space and make decisions on their own, which should not be disturbed by others, even if the most intimate friends. In this manner, people are not supposed to try all means to prevent their friends from making mistakes at the cost of the breakdown of friendship.Take me for example. I am a very independent girl and always divide my life into two parts-private one and social one. I enjoy the accompaniment of friends and luckily, I own a couple of close friends. But meanwhile, I tend to protect my private life from the intrusion of them. When they try to persuade me not to do this thing or that thing, I will seriously tell them that it is my own business and even if I will taste bitter fruits of my mistakes, never would I regret my choice. So even the closest friends should wisely leave sufficient space to each other and then the friendship will last forever. Therefore, I deem it is sensible to even let a friend make a mistake rather than to be beyond the border of friends and then destroy friendship.
Also, even if our friends make mistakes, it might not a bad thing because through the mistakes, they can learn more or even start to attempt a new method with full initiative, which is beneficial to their success. Individuals may encounter the bankruptcy of business, but they acquire a chance to learn valuable lessons and experiences which are significant contributors to the future success. A girl may be jilted by her boyfriend miserably. However, she accordingly has a deeper and clearer understanding of love and probably believe strongly that the most suitable man will be waiting for her. Scientists are common to make mistakes during their research. Nevertheless, maybe it is these mistakes and frustrations that build up their unyielding and persistent spirits. What is better, they can be inspired by these mistakes and open a new "door" in the given realm. So do not fear that our friends would be hurt badly by mistakes, because these mistakes can present them unexpectedly surprising gifts.
To sum up, given that people should not interfere the life of friends too much and usually, mistakes can serve to make our friends learn more experiences and even be creative to get a new access to success, I am convinced that letting a friend make a mistake is better than trying to stop them and pay the expense of destroying friendship. |