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太好啦 呵呵 那我就贴过来咯 谢谢08mm
Letting a friend make a mistake is better than saying or doing something that may destroy the friendship.
Friends are people who like us in spite of our faults and who listen to us and tell us the truth. So in my opinion, I strongly maintain that we should point out a friend’s shortcomings and help him/her prevent from making mistakes.
To begin with, it violates the principles of real friendship that knowing a friend is going to do something wrong without reminding him/her. It is said that whenever you need to hear the bitter truth about yourself, go to your real friend. Real friends will never lie to you, just to please you and win your favors. So to be a true friend we should timely tell a friend when he/she is wrong. Although our actions or words may be harsh, they are really needed and helpful. Besides, just think it over, we certainly hope our friends be honest with us, and correct us when we are at fault. After all, being foolish in front of one or two friends is so much better than being laughed at by a crowd.这里其实已经说得很具体了,可惜就是例子没有写出来,你把关键词“foolish” "laughed at by a crowd"连成例子更能说明问题 In brief, holding back opinions about our friends’ shortcomings never makes us a real friend.
In addition, the results of non-interference may be more serious than telling the truth. On one hand, seeing our friend suffer from his/her own mistake, we may feel guilty and remorse. On the other hand, our friends may blame us for not correct(ing) them before they make mistakes. Here is an example of my own. At the end of last quarter my friend Sue was too busy to cope with her anthropology paper. So she just downloaded a paper and did(made) little change. I was her study partner and found out about it, but I did not dissuade her from handing that copied paper for I thought she might be unhappy. However, when she was finally caught and seriously punished, I was and still feel regret(注意词性) that I did not stop her and let her almost ruin her reputation. In a word, comparing to the worse results of standing by, it is better for us to do or say something before our friends make unredeemable mistakes.
Furthermore, it is possible for us to be candid with our friends while not harming the friendship. We can use some strategies to help us be a helpful and welcome friend. For example, we can speak or do things with the intent of caring for our lost friends, not in a way that hurts them or brings them down.这句没怎么看懂 Just remember not to be rude and degrading, and put on a “sugar coat” for our rough but helpful advice. Another way is to be willing to listen and help our friends. It is unwise to point our friends’ flaws and then walk away, leaving them alone in trouble. Our friends may have some feedback or need further help regarding what we have said or done. In short, following such methods we can actually strengthen our friendship while being honest to our friends.
To sum up, I can hardly agree that we can sacrifice the integrity and essence of friendship in the name of protecting the friendship(it代替). In the long run, frankness and openness is the key to a healthy friendship, while insincerity and “white” lies are the deal breakers.
fancyww 发表于 2009-8-26 10:43
这篇写得也很好哇 再表扬下语言 |
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