1月4日，1T作文第六期同主题写作

Lyon_TonyUID: 178961

TOPIC61：

Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Parents or other adult relatives should make important decisions for their older (15 to 18 year-old) teenage children. Use specific reasons and examples to support your opinion.

参考分析：

表明立场：这样的做法有一定的道理。

•支持这样的做法的理由：older teenage children还不够成熟(immature)，考虑不够周全(inconsiderate)，尤其涉及到经济相关的决定时，缺乏独立承担能力(incapable of being independent)。

•然而，“如何保证parents或者adult relatives所作的决定就是正确的”也是个问题。

•另外，总是把孩子排除在决定权之外，是否会使孩子变得“没能力做出任何决定”？the ability to make sound decision是人生道路上很重要的能力之一。

参考例文：

Parents and adult relatives play a significant role in shaping a child's life. They teach them how to live, and struggle for the right things. However when children grow up, often they fail to realize the contributions of their parents and adult relatives in their lives. Teenage children think that being a teenager they are able to make all the decisions of their lives. In my opinion, parents and adult relatives should make important decisions for their teenage children because teenagers are inexperienced, overconfident and many times they do not realize the consequences that the unimportant decisions can have on their lives.

Teenagers, being new in the adult world and having their first experiences of their adult lives, think themselves as grownups and perfectly able to make their own decisions. However, most of the times, their decisions are influenced by their friends. For example a student may get into a top university, but just because his/her friend is going to college, he/she wishes to go to college too. In this case the decision is obviously influential, and can have great negative effects on his/ her life. At such a point the parents or the adult relatives should make decisions for their children.

Another reason why parents or the adult relatives’ decisions are very important is that the teenagers are over confident. The teenagers haven't still been into practical life, and they don't have an idea of how the practical world works. Specially before the university, teenagers are living in kind of a fantasy world, where they think everything is cool and perfect. For example they might think that playing basket ball in the school gym is definitely going to get them selected on the national team. This may be true in some cases, but usually it doesn't work out this way. So if the teenager just neglects his/her studies, he/she is going to be definitely in loss. At such points, like choosing the subjects in high school, parents and/or adult relatives should make decisions for their teenage children.

In conclusion, although teenagers might think the decisions being imposed on them as a stone in their paths, it is in fact a blessing for them. Teenagers, being irresponsible and inexperienced are not always able to make decisions for themselves. Hence parents and/or adult relatives should make the decisions for them.

参考分析和例文只是给大家拓展一下思维，希望大家在写这篇文章的时候能够展开自己的思维，有自己独到的见解。写作是一定要限时。

mxggUID: 2111875

UP一下

huangtingtingUID: 2162352

感觉观点有点偏激 ，但是已经下笔了，不过按时完成了。 350 words
请大家指正。
There are several crucial decisions to make for the teenagers such as the choice of major or university . Whether these decisions should be made by the teenagers themselves or by their parents and adult relatives . personally , I suggest letting the teenagers make their own decisions with the advices from their parents or relatives .

First of all , the parents or other relatives opinions may not coincide with those of teenagers . taking the choice of major as an example , parents would prefer choose a major which has a potential development or which will provide a well paid job rather than consider the really interests and talents of their children . some teenager fascinated by the astronomy may be forced to learn pianos.

Additionally , at the age of 15 or older 18 , even though sometimes not mature enough .  teenager has the ability to make their own decision . they are no longer the little baby in the parents arms nor the puppet controlled by others. They should learn to take responsibility to their own decision whether the result is satisfy or disappoint . there is one idiom saying . the fortune we have when we are young is the chance to make fault . It is essential for the teenager learn to be responsible and independent by making their own decision.

Further more , the executor of the decision is the teenager . What if he is compelled to achieve the goal made by their parents rather than derived form himself . how can we expect him to act actively and with full of energy 。

Although the parents and others relatives points of view are sometime reasonable ,because they have more experiences than the teenagers , plus their insights of problem are more profound .I still insist the teenagers have the right to make their own decisions . the role of parents or other relatives should not be a supervisor making all decisions for their children but   a consultant who analyze the situation for the teenagers as well as give them wisdom advices .

autoeagleUID: 195227

I do strongly support the idea that the older teenage children should follow the decisions made by their parents or some of other adult relatives for reasons below.

First let us take the psychological states of those children. They are just passing the adolesence and are considered not mature enough both in psychological and physical by our society and government.some laws limit the actions of the children.They do not allow to drive, drink,get credit card and do not have the rights of vote. So they must be looked as children but not yound adult and thereby do not allow do some important decisions by themselves but by their parents.

my second points is that the older teenage children should follow the decisions in common condition. Expect some rare cases, parents love their children and try their best to help their children. So I believe the decisions made by them are kind for children though sometimes unaccepted by their children.The children should try to think over the decisions and follow them.

Last by not less I think , the children could fight against some absurd or harmful decisions made by their parents or adult relatives. Some parents look their children as tools or slaves and their decisions such as force their children marry with some people for money in Indian and countries in Africa would  destroy the future of the children. In the  sense, the children should call for help from society and government to fight against those decisions.

According the reasons given, the children should usually follow those those decisions and fight against some absurd and harmful desicions not matter who make them.

autoeagleUID: 195227

读ETS6分范文有感。关键是拼写语法正确，过渡自然，结构完整，有分析也有具体例子，表达清楚。这也是ETS评分标准。

geacyUID: 2132185

支持一下,晚上写

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晚上写

griffinandrocUID: 201471

第三个理由段没有时间写了, 规定时间内的
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好平淡啊, 惨就一个字

When a family’s children come to the age about 16, parents often face the dilemma of choosing to decide important affairs of their children or let the teenage boy or girl make decision for them. As my personal point of view, I support the idea that the elder could offer advices or suggestions, yet the final judgments should come from the mind of their children.

In the first place, parents’ decisions are not always fit to the situations or difficulties faced by those teenagers. As an example, my father grew up from a very tough situation, hence developing a conservative attitude toward the economic environment. Each time we come to a discussion about how I should spend my money, he would encourage me to put the money in the bank for the unexpected hard time without exception. However, I spend part of my money on purchasing expensive but valuable books of computer science, which now guarantees me a good position in the future job market.

Secondly, because children at this age should learn to be responsible of the things they have done, over-interference of their personal choices would damage their positivity of making decisions. In China, civil people above age 18 will take his or her whole responsibility for every conduct. As their tutors, parents cannot deprive them of the right to select their own lives. One of my childhood friends, who grow up in a rich family, always leaves his personal affairs with his parents who give him too much love. As a result, after his graduate from high school, he begins to complain about his lack of ability of making choice among the various possibilities from the outside.

Admittedly, teenage children cannot neglect the importance of their parents’ suggestions.

In conclusion, I believe that parents should share their experiences and judgments with their children and after careful consideration about the information provided by the elder, the youngers must choose their way on their own.

[ 本帖最后由 griffinandroc 于 2006-1-4 19:48 编辑 ]

greenlemonUID: 2169154

晚上写
Parents have began to take care of their babies since the day their kids were born, and they started to play the roles of teachers, friends, supervisors and decision-makers. But problems rose up when their children grew older that whether parents should make important decisions for children when the children have grown to 15-18 years old? I think they should not continue to do that.

First of all, making decisions on their own is good for their children to establish healthy attitudes toward life. For one reason, deciding the important matters in their lives would make them responsible for themselves. Many people that I know or be familiar with indicate that parents who love to be decision-makers draw their enthusiasm of life or study away. It brings the feeling that they are excluded from their own lives and what they expect to be actively involved in. And, if parents allow teenagers to make important decisions themselves and give appropriate directions, little young man and women would feel to be trusted, then tend to consider more that they may never think about and to be serous. Gradually, they will learn to be responsible for their decisions, because such decisions relate to their own lives. Although in some cases, they would not make the best choice, losing means winning next time. Then comes another reason, they would learn to be more couragable and to learn something from their experience to avoid the same mistakes in the future.

Secondly, it is helpful to make the best choice when doing the decision. Some may argue that they don’t have abilities to make wise decisions. Admittedly, that is true, but how can we promise that parents are always right? When teenagers decide some thing themselves, parents provide their own suggestions and explain them to the children, and let them scrutinize the advices. Also, children should tell parents their thoughts. The wise ideas always come from theis way and may be better accepted by children for they are allowed to be the final decision-maker, rather than the operator of and order. That would efficiently avoid the wrong ideas made by angry parents who lost the ability to be considerable and rational.

So, in views of the advantages of self-deciding, parents should hand the right to decide important things to their children and learn to be good directors. After all, people have their own lives and should be the charge of them, even for teenagers.

[ 本帖最后由 greenlemon 于 2006-1-5 21:06 编辑 ]

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wishuangUID: 2112728

第一次限时，失败~   望互拍！
没有看例文，但是观点好像和例文很像
354字  45分钟:L
For older teenage children, when faced with the important decisions to make, should they refer to parents or other adult relatives? Some people hold the idea that children should solve the problem by themselves because of independence, but other people agree that parents or other adult relatives should make important decisions for their children, and I agree with the latter.

The first and most important reason is that older teenage children do not have enough knowledge to make a deep and considerate thought of problems. As we know, having abundant experiences of life is very important to make a decision. For a person, for example, who have gone to no place but his living place, a modern city attracts him so much that he makes a decision to go there alone and achieve further study. As a result, he reaches the noisy and dirty city and realizes that the decision is bad for him. Parents or adult relatives have more experiences than their older teenage children, for this reason they could make decisions more deeply and completely.

Another reason why I agree with the statement is that older teenage children may make important decisions according to the social environment and surrounding situation where they live, and lack the ability to think in a long term. For instance, older teenage children may choose economics as their majors, only because people graduated from economics department have good jobs at the time when they make this important decision. But in a long term, interest must be the first concern to make the decision about choosing a major.

Admittedly，parents or adults relations may not make correct decisions for their children. But who can make sure that the decision they make is the best one? If we try our best for the goal we choose, I believe the decision which parents make for their children is more considerate and correct than those of children.

To sum up. I support the statement that parents and other adult relatives should make important decisions for their teenage children, because adults can make deep and considerate decisions from the long view.

北回归线UID: 2130044

限时还是略略失败一点...不过总算是在30+-2min内拼死拼活地完成了，可惜没有时间检查了。速度仍然还是我要锻炼的重点阿！

这次的文章我的观点和例文相悖，不过应该没啥要紧吧，不妨碍写作嘛，好了，大家上砖吧。今天时间不够了，学校即将断网，改天来改其他同学的文！

Everyone has to walk through his/her older teenage years. In this period of time, many important decisions should be made at several crossings. Although experienced parents or other adult relatives should play an active role in the procedure, they should not make decisions for their older teenage children.

Commonly, children at the age between 15 with 18 have the ability of deciding for some extent. It is high time that they should be trained to expand such ability. Parents or other adult relatives can give their advice to children instead of deciding everything for their offspring. Through the adults’ guidance, older teenagers will reach their correct decision and gain their confidence. They will do even better in following situations.

From another aspect, some people hold the idea that the teenagers are too immature and too inconsiderate to make decisions. I should say that one's experience and ability are established on the base of continuing exploration, including failure at times. If a child is kept away from the real world by parents all the time, he/she may be totally blocked when faced with a practical dilemma. On contrast, if he/she made his/her own decision, even if that decision led him/her to a wrong place, he/she would still learn a lot from it. Sometimes it is helpful to allow teenagers to make some mistakes, for the experience attained from failure is much more valuable.

In addition, there is not a person who is always completely correct. Even our parents or other adult relatives would make some mistakes. Therefore, once they make a wrong decision for their children, the consequence would be very troublesome. It is possible to be a fuse of a dispute, and even has some bad effects on the relationship between parents and children.

To conclude, during the decision-making process, parents or other adult relatives can use their knowledge and experience to give their children advice, then let the older teenagers arrive their own decisions. It will benefit the teenagers a lot in gaining their confidence, accumulating their experience, and all in all, improving their own ability of deciding.

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[ 本帖最后由 北回归线 于 2006-1-4 22:43 编辑 ]

best4914UID: 2130659

第一次写了发出来。以前写给同学看过，同学说我写得什么狗屁不通，想不通我怎么过六级的……
今天鼓起勇气发出来，请各位拍砖


Whether you realized or not, parents and other adult relatives play a great important role in the development of children’s characteristics. They influence their children in many ways, like the opinions of the world, the way their spending their leisure time, the attitude toward the people around. Most people take their childhood to try to do everything like their parents. But they want to do something opposite to their parents, when they grow up as teenagers. This phenomenon is prevailing in the society. Teenagers, like 15 to 18 year-old, prefer to make their own decisions even though those decisions relate to their further. And in most cases, they refuse to concern the adult’s suggestion. As some teenagers say, they want their own life, not their parents’. This experiment may be making sense to some extent. But in my view point, teenagers should never do their important decision along.

As for the first reason, teenagers do not have sufficient knowledge and experiences to make an important decision. One, 15-18 year-old, may have ten years education and not much living experiences. On the other hand, their parents and other adults have been living in this world for at least twenty years working and studying. Obviously, adults are more knowledgeable and experienced. With more knowledge and experiences, the decision can be made more properly. For example, my brother had the entering examination of colleges last year. As he wants to be a lawyer, he had to decide which college he should apply for, Wuhan University or Renmin University. For a period of time, he was confused. Then he turned to his father for help. Based on the analysis of two universities, his father made a final decision for his son. Now, my brother is on his way to be a lawyer and enjoying his university life in Renmin University.

In addition, a teenager can not realize the importance of a decision. When s/he comes to a problem, he may not notice that her/his decision to this problem will influence her/his whole life. Here is a good example to show it. In the decades, the number of drugging teenagers, between 15 to18 year-old, is increased astonishingly. Many of them have no idea about the drug and its influence, when they have their first drugging. So if they ask for their parents’ suggestions, there is no doubt that their parents would keep them apart from drugging.

Of course, letting teenager themselves to make their important decision may help to their abilities of making decision. But with adults’ knowledge, experience and sensitivity of the importance, the decisions can be more proper and teenagers can avoid doing something that is a waste of time. So parents and other adult relatives should make important decisions for their older teenage children.

luoluo1978UID: 2159364

Parents and adult relatives play a significantly important role in shaping children’ life, they are supposed to be the best teachers during their offspring’s childhood, from whom children learn speaking, walking, and other most basic skills. However, whether parents and adult relatives should make important decisions for their older teenagers is still a hot discussion. In my opinion, that letting children make important decisions by themselves and suggesting children how to make a right decision are best ways.

The phenomenon that parents put such dogmatical opinions on their children that individual goals and abilities of children to make sound decisions and were not taken for granted was not uncommon. Firstly, the decisions the parents made for children is not always appropriate, because parents always hope their children to realize their unfinished dream according to conventional vale, ruts and life style which may be unsuitable for their children. Secondly, if parents often make important decisions for their children, the children will lose their ability of self-independence

Children, 15 to 18 years olds, are not mature enough to make some pivotal decisions, but they are aware of what interests them, on which children will be willing to dedicate and concentrate. What parents need to do is just to tell the disadvantages and advantages of every choice, then allow children weigh their choices and make the final decision.

In conclusion, if parents and adult relatives provide their sufficient and reasonable suggestions to their children, I believe children have the ability to make a right choice. I thereby reinforce my viewpoint that parents should not make even important decisions for their children but just tell their how to make a right decision.

luoluo1978UID: 2159364